6 Ways to Make Your Bedroom the Sexiest Place Ever


Setting the mood for sex is important. Anyone who’s briefly considered getting busy while on vacation at a dirty/smelly/not-so-clean hotel (ha, no, thank you) can vouch for that. And while you might not think about your bedroom as lacking in sex appeal (it has a clean bed, right?!), you might be surprised by the little tweaks that can make a huge difference in terms of your desire. 

So forget about the ways to make your space extra-chic or extra-cozy—here are some genius ways to turn your bedroom into a sultry love nest. Seriously, we dare anyone to enter and ot leave satisfied.

Create a Sex Altar 
First, you have to decide that your bedroom will only have two main uses: restful sleep and amazing sex. “You have to eliminate the things that detract from that sensibility,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. To do that, make literal space for the things that turn you on. Maybe you invest in a gorgeous lingerie chest or you pick a drawer, chest, or even an out-in-the-open spot for sexy items like your favorite massage oils or toys (these sex toys are so subtle, they can hide in plain sight). Finding these items a permanent home gives them a little more importance and makes you more likely to use them.

Buy Brightly Colored Sheets
Pristine white cotton sheets can be chic and luxurious, but not so great if you plan to use lubes or oils or have period sex, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., associate professor at Indiana University and author of Sex Made Easy: Your Awkward Questions Answered for Better, Smarter, Amazing Sex. Experimenting with textures and colors with your bedding is also a great way to heighten your senses. And since red makes everyone look sexier and more adventurous, why not incorporate the color of lust?

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Get a Heavy-Duty Lock
Distraction is the worst when you’re trying to lose yourself in the moment. “Studies have shown that for women to cycle through the process of arousal and achieve orgasm, a mental deactivation needs to happen,” says Kerner, which means that you aren’t likely to have a mindblowing orgasm if you’re worried your roommate or kids will burst into the room at any second. So sure you could use your regular lock, but installing a heavy-duty one can provide a playful BDSM twist and put your mind completely at ease.

Put Up Sexy Photographs
Since women are prone to distraction during sex, Herbenick suggests you remove photographs of loved ones from your room (don’t worry, there’s plenty of space for them in the living room). Because really, do you want to accidentally glance at that photo of you and your parents at graduation when you’re this close to an orgasm? Instead, choose images that are conducive to sexy times—maybe a boudoir shot you took before your wedding or a passionate abstract painting that makes you feel things. Really, even stark landscapes are better than pictures of you and your little brother at summer camp.

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Install a Dimmer Switch
“A lot of men and women grapple with lighting,” says Kerner. “Either it’s too light or its not enough light for visual stimulation.” And according to a recent Women’s Health survey, 74 percent of men and 72 percent of women want those lights dimmed during sex—but not totally off. The easy solution: a simple dimmer switch. Here’s how to install one for way hotter sex.

Light the Right Candles
Ditch that vanilla-scented candle you’ve had forever and replace it with a pumpkin one (yes, we give you permission to splurge on pumpkin spice accessories). Research from the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation found that the smell of pumpkin pie can increase penile blood flow and vaginal blood flow, implying that it may boost arousal.

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