“With lights on you expose yourself more to your partner and create the opportunity to generate even greater trust and get to know one another even better,†says Dana Weiser, Ph.D., an assistant professor of human development and family studies at Texas Tech University. It can be incredibly sexy, she adds, because you get to make eye contact and see your partner’s reactions to the pleasure you’re giving them.
If you’re still a little hesitant about lighting it up in the bedroom, try easing into it by flipping the switch after foreplay, says Kerner. “As you get more aroused, your inhibitions are lower and you might be more open to letting in some light,†he says.
Not convinced yet? Here are seven more reasons to consider coming out of the dark.
You Can Do It Any Time
The tough thing about only doing it in the dark is that it’s incredibly limiting, and we know it’s fun to get busy any moment you feel is right. (Hello, morning sex!) Leaving the lights on or doing it in daylight opens up a world of new sexy times—and locations—to explore.
He Can’t “Accidently†Put It In Your Butt
There’s nothing wrong with a little booty action, but that’s not our idea of a fun “surprise.â€
You Reap the Fruits of Your Gym Labor
Trust us, as good as your butt looks in those yoga pants, it looks even better out of them. Go ahead, put your hard work on display.
It’s Basically Free Porn
Lights off sex is nice, but you can’t watch yourself do it in pitch black. Position yourselves right in front of the bedroom mirror, fix your stares, and press the record button on your video camera if you’re feeling particularly daring. Cue the house music.
You Get to Know His O
Whether he’s a squinter or a jaw-dropper, you’ve got to admit you like to witness the very moment when he reaches the point of no return. We’re 1000 percent sure he likes seeing your grand finale, too.
You Avoid Sex Injuries
This is especially helpful after a night of drinking. No one wants to make a post-coital trip to the E.R.
He Can See What He’s Doing Down There
Verbal guidance is great for foreplay. What’s even better is some visual coaching. Don’t be afraid to show him around your lady garden.
You’ll feel like a total badass.
When you take control by putting the spotlight on your sex life, you’ll feel empowered, turned on, and eager to take yourself to O-town.
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