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Does your relationship make you happy?
The quick answer to that question should be yes. The answer after long reflection should still be yes. There might be a few caveats, “most of the time,†or “except for this one thing, but we’re working on that.†Overall, though, you should feel safe, secure, and satisfied.
This article is for those who say no, whether it’s an easy no, or an uneasy yes that turns into a no upon reflection. More specifically, this article is for people who aren’t just unhappy in their current relationship, but usually end up unhappy in all their relationships.
Even those who love us the most will act selfishly sometimes. They’ll ask, manipulate or beg for their needs to come first. When partners take turns supporting each other, with periods of equality and contentment in between, that’s a normal, healthy relationship. Yet plenty of smart people get trapped in cycles where they’re run ragged accommodating others’ needs, and are never taken care of in return.
Even the most grounded intuitive practitioners can have unhealthy complications in their personal relationships. They have no problem following their intuition’s guidance in matters of business or personal achievements. But in family, friendships and, yes, love, the intensity of other people’s needs acts like a magnet on their internal compass, and they just can’t get a good read.
This is a complex issue, but it can be boiled down to one basic point: your intuition will guide you toward the right thing, even though it’s not always the comfortable thing or the popular thing. For example, a session of prayer or meditation might provide a clear message that it’s time to say “no†more often in a relationship. When the next request for help comes in, it’s hard to stop your mouth from saying “yes.†You want to support the person you love. And the help isn’t costing you anything. But after a million “yesâ€es, a no just seems impossible.
The rationalization stops now. Listen to your heart. Think about the long-term consequences of your one-sided relationship. Will either of you be stronger and happier in the long run? Do you want to stay in a relationship where you feel more like a caregiver than a partner?
Trust your instincts and pull back a little. Even if it’s uncomfortable at first, being equals feels so much better than being protector and victim.
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And they are apparently too stupid to realize how easy it is to ensure they are called out for their bad behavior.
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    Last reviewed: 14 May 2013
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