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There are teachers everywhere. Every enlightenment and tradition on Earth has still teachers and etiquette that are time-tried and still relevant. This training comes from Brazil.

E Daí

When in Brazil, my crony David encountered a word E daí (ay-die-ee), that is Portuguese for “and then?” Regardless of a story told or hardship conveyed, a tradition is for a listener to ask after a while, “E daí?” with a tinge that implies: “And so? What now?” Literally, e is “and” and daí means “from there,” from a place nearby you, as in, “What is only over where we are?” or “And so, what is your subsequent step?”

The word E daí invokes 3 unbroken meanings, mostly asked by a one who will hear we out: First, we hear what life has given you. E daí? And so, what does this matter? What does this mean? Second, we see where we are. E daí? And so, from there, what is in front of you? What is only over where we are? And third, E daí? And so, what now? What is your subsequent step?

In a deeply-practical way, this tradition invites us to locate ourselves in any given conditions from a inside out and from a largest support of anxiety probable to a evident circumstance. Before we overreact or conflict betimes to whatever conditions we find ourselves in, it helps to ask, “E daí? What does this meant in a tour of one life in a time on Earth within a incomparable tour of all life opposite all time?” Such care will impact either we respond during all or in what way. After locating a eventuality in a largest frame, it helps to demeanour during a sold conditions and determine, “E daí? What is in front of us? Will a belligerent before us bear a weight? Should we behind up? Should we avoid a situation? Or should we mount resolutely where we are?” Both a incomparable and some-more sold context assistance us to ask and know, “E daí? What is a subsequent step?”

In many cases, coercion is not an issue. In many instances, we have time to rivet this situational inventory, that used adequate becomes involuntary like breathing. And in those few cases where we need to act quickly, we are challenged to trust a intuition, dared to enter a impulse but hesitation. From inside such moments, time mostly slows down and opens up, apropos timeless. This is what people news after relocating by earthy crises, that a eventuality seemed to reveal in delayed motion.

For any of us, these subsequent stairs are acts of adore that need bravery and compassion. They are surpassing gestures that change both a giver and receiver. They can change a landscape of a life.

Excerpt from Seven Thousand Ways to Listen, just published from Simon Schuster, Oct. 9, 2012.

A Question to Walk With: Describe a conditions we are facing. Ask yourself a doubt — E daí — in a 3 meanings, and move what we learn to a friend.

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