Lira Galore is angry.<\/p>\n
The 22-year-old social media star<\/a>, former exotic dancer and ex-fianc\u00e9e of rapper Rick Ross has admitted as much, but Lira is now dealing with her anger in a dramatically different fashion than firing off some heated Tweets or burying her feelings in a bottle. Rather, she is facing her emotions head-on with the help of life coach Iyanla Vanzant.<\/p>\n
Determined to debunk the myth of the angry black woman<\/a>, Iyanla has invited eight women labeled \u201cangry\u201d ? including Lira ? to enter a \u201cHouse of Healing,\u201d where they will get to the heart of their behaviors. Lira\u2019s work begins as she addresses her high-profile split<\/a>.<\/p>\n
\u201cOur relationship was phenomenal. But then he changed,\u201d Lira says. \u201cHe was doing a lot of sneaky things behind my back.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lira admits that her ex-fianc\u00e9\u2019s behavior infuriated her, but adds that there\u2019s a boarder issue at the heart of her anger.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m angry because I want our black men to value us, and they don\u2019t,\u201d she says simply.<\/p>\n
For Lira, dealing with that anger hasn\u2019t been easy. \u201cWhen I\u2019m angry, I drink. I like the way it makes me feel. Makes me forget my pain, my hurt, my heartbreak,\u201d she says. \u201cAlcohol helps, but sometimes I act out.\u201d<\/p>\n
It is the acting out that Iyanla says reinforces the stereotype of the \u201cangry black woman,\u201d and she adds that the key to doing away with this dangerous label is understanding what\u2019s really beneath the anger. In Lira\u2019s case, her conversation with Iyanla draws out her biggest problem in her relationship with Rick Ross.<\/p>\n
\u201c[I was] being na\u00efve, listening to anything I was being told,\u201d Lira says.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou ignored your intuition as a woman. Do you know how you learned that, Miss Lira?\u201d Iyanla asks the former stripper. \u201cI\u2019m not saying it to be disrespectful. You learned to do that on the pole. Because on the pole, it wasn\u2019t about you, was it?\u201d<\/p>\n
Considering this, Lira uses two words to describe how she feels now. \u201cVery embarrassed,\u201d she says, dropping her head.<\/p>\n
\u201cThose are some of the places we\u2019ve got to go for your healing,\u201d Iyanla says.<\/p>\n
Lira\u2019s healing ? and the healing of the seven other women<\/a> ? continues on the next \u201cIyanla: Fix My Life,\u201d airing Saturday, Sept. 17, at 9 p.m. ET on OWN. You can also watch episode on demand via the Watch OWN app<\/a>.<\/p>\n
Another inappropriate way anger is expressed:<\/strong><\/p>\n Iyanla explains why one woman calling another a \u201cbitch\u201d is never OK<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Lira Galore is angry. The 22-year-old social media star, former exotic dancer and ex-fianc\u00e9e of rapper Rick Ross has admitted as much, but Lira is now dealing with her anger in a dramatically different fashion than firing off some heated Tweets or burying her feelings in a bottle. Rather, she is facing her emotions head-on Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-113512","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/113512","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=113512"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/113512\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=113512"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=113512"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/i\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=113512"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}