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<\/p>\nAre you at it morning, day and night and still having no baby luck?\u00a0<\/p>\n
The sight of a baby makes your heart melt and you don\u2019t want to wait any longer, you want to start a family.<\/p>\n
Although it\u2019s ultimately down to ‘Mother Nature’, there are some do\u2019s and don\u2019ts behind the art of conceiving.<\/p>\n
Writing for\u00a0Healthista<\/a>, fertility expert Jani White reveals what most couples are doing wrong in bed when it comes to getting pregnant and how to get it right.<\/p>\n
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One of the best ways to fire up your reproductive energy is to return to the state of constant contact you once had, says fertility expert Jani White<\/p>\n
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LESS FOCUS ON OVULATION, MORE ON THE LEAD UP\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n Probably the greatest mistake made by trying-to-conceive couples is the over-emphasis given to the ovulatory days.<\/p>\n Of course they are important, but it is just as important to build up the conception energy in the days leading into the ovulation.\u00a0<\/p>\n The energy that entices the receptivity for conception begins immediately as your period ends.\u00a0<\/p>\n The big mistake many couples make is not putting enough emphasis into building up their sexual energy before the ovulatory days arrive.<\/p>\n So many couples get swept up in the day to day drive of our busy hectic desk-bound commuter lives, and very often the sexual agenda is something not prioritised until those all important peak fertility days.<\/p>\n I always say to couples, ‘the chemistry of attraction is the chemistry of conception\u2019.\u00a0<\/p>\n That means, if we want to build our ability to conceive we need to focus on building our sexual energy.<\/p>\n MAKE SEDUCTION YOUR PRIORITY\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n If we can turn our attention to making seduction the priority, the ability to conceive will naturally be enhanced by our heightened sexual energy<\/p>\n One of the biggest misjudgements couples make is the decision to put aside lovemaking in favour of baby-making.<\/p>\n So let\u2019s go back to the chemical reality of what the body needs in order to conceive.\u00a0<\/p>\n The chemistry of attraction, that pheromonal \u2018fizz\u2019 is exactly the same hormone cascade that affects your ability to conceive.<\/p>\n It\u2019s called the HPG, the hypothalumus-pituitary-gonadal axis, which is a finely balanced feedback loop between the brain and the ovaries and testicles.<\/p>\n Your desire kicks off a signal to the limbic system which triggers your dopamine, the \u2018I want\u2019 hormone.<\/p>\n This in turn triggers oxytocin, the so called \u2018love hormone\u2019 as it develops our sense of bonding, a most necessary ingredient in the quest to conceive.<\/p>\n This domino effect, as one hormone triggers another, is why we call it a hormone cascade.<\/p>\n This hormone cascade, this desire-driven punch, then triggers the hormones that flurry us into a state of heightened wanting, firing up our oestrogens and testosterones into peak sexuality.\u00a0<\/p>\n This is our libido, our hormonally driven desire barometer.\u00a0It is in this state of wanting that we become most adaptable and receptive to conception.<\/p>\n If we can turn our attention to making seduction the priority, the ability to conceive will naturally be enhanced by our heightened sexual energy.<\/p>\n CUDDLING, STROKING, HAND-HOLDING\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Many couples trying to conceive overly focus on the ovulatory days and forget to build up sexual energy in the days leading up to it, says Ms White<\/p>\n So we mentioned the emphasis on babymaking can interfere with lovemaking, and we also spoke about the importance of stoking up the oxytocin as a way of building up our sexual and reproductive energy.<\/p>\n We cannot emphasise enough the importance of this bonding hormone and how essential it is to our conception energy.\u00a0<\/p>\n You can’t get pregnant from anal or oral sex as long as no semen comes into contact with your vagina.<\/p>\n Pregnancy is also no longer possible if you’ve been through the menopause – despite Kris Jenner’s apparent ‘scare’ on an episode of Keeping Up With The Kardashians.<\/p>\n However, family planning experts always stress that no contraception method is foolproof, with misused or broken condoms being a risk, along with taking the pill incorrectly or experiencing a stomach upset while taking oral contraceptives.<\/p>\n We need to know this mate we have chosen will be well bonded with us as we embark into a pregnancy and childbirth.\u00a0<\/p>\n There needs to be a certainty this mate will be the one to ensure our safety and wellbeing in the context of caring for an infant and raising a child.<\/p>\n This response is hardwired into a 30,000 year old program so entrenched into our DNA it is impossible to feel safe about having children unless we know our mate will be there to fend off the sabretooth tigers and slay the woolly mammoth.<\/p>\n Sounds a bit dramatic? Well, yes, in the context that sabretooths have been replaced by financial stresses and the woolly mammoth is your local Tesco\/Sainsbury.\u00a0<\/p>\n But, in the reality of how our hormones work, this cave-orientated response is still our fundamental driver in what makes our cascades tick.<\/p>\n We can trigger our oxytocin response through handholding, stroking, eye-gazing, sensual noises and hugging.<\/p>\n Oxytocin, the so called love hormone, can be triggered through handholding<\/p>\n Remember what it is like when you first fall in love? You are in a state of constant touch \u2013 in a state of bonding.\u00a0<\/p>\n One of the best ways to fire up your reproductive energy is to return to that state of constant contact. They call oxytocin \u2018the love hormone\u2019 for a reason.<\/p>\n And please remember during post ovulation it is just as important to keep your sexual and lovemaking energy kindled.\u00a0<\/p>\n These oxytocin enhancing tips are vital advice for your luteal phase \u2013 the two weeks after the ovulation, the time of potential implantation.<\/p>\n During this phase it is so important for you both to put a great deal of emphasis and energy into \u2018cherishment\u2019.\u00a0<\/p>\n Show your lover how much you care. Be aware now the sperm delivery part is done, it is just as important for you to be focused on the upkeep of that sliding scale of hormonal vibe between you.<\/p>\n Keeping that physical bond thriving through touch during the luteal phase is a vital ingredient to helping your body to be more receptive to a pregnancy.<\/p>\n Babies want to come and be with happy people.\u00a0<\/p>\n Cherishment during the luteal phase is a sure-fire way to trigger the hormonal receptiveness for conception.<\/p>\n CHARGING YOUR SEXUAL BATTERIES\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n It is all too easy in our busy lives to let sex fall down the agenda to a place where it is relegated to an \u2019afterthought\u2019<\/p>\n For many couples the process of trying to conceive can become fraught with a minefield of sexual politics and tensions, which has significant potential to become a mis-match of disappointments.<\/p>\n As we stated earlier, the babymaking can supplant the lovemaking and what should be a delightful and fulfilling experience of sexual replenishment can instead become a chore.<\/p>\n One of the best ways to stay in the lovemaking frame is to focus instead on the things which bring you into your most sexual frame.<\/p>\n It is all too easy in our busy lives to let sex fall down the agenda to a place where it is relegated to the more \u2019afterthought\u2019 or \u2018occasional\u2019 space; many people feel too tired for sex.\u00a0<\/p>\n Or worse yet, when sex becomes a scheduled obligation according to the temperature chart and the ovulation test kit.<\/p>\n Instead of being in a state of joyful bonding, the sex can become quite mechanical and feel soulless.<\/p>\n Ask yourself, in this last week how much time and energy did you give over to the day to day mechanics of living your life, commute, work, shopping and cooking, errands etc?\u00a0<\/p>\n And in the context of all these regular aspects of daily life, how much time did you give over to your social media time, your email commitments or just cruising on the internet?<\/p>\n And in calculating all this time and energy consumption, ask yourself \u2013 how much time did you spend thinking about ways to charge up your sexual tension?\u00a0<\/p>\n How much time did you give towards thinking of ways to seduce your lover? How much time and energy did you devote to finding ways to turn them on?\u00a0<\/p>\n How much time did you spend thinking of, fantasizing, about what turns you on?<\/p>\n Babymaking energy is derived out of our sexual energy, and the more time and effort you give to charging up your sexual needs, the more you will enhance your enjoyment of lovemaking for it\u2019s own sake.<\/p>\n This is the right frame of heart and mind for making babies.\u00a0<\/p>\n The more turned on we are to enjoying and revelling in our lovemaking, the more we will enhance our ability to conceive.<\/p>\n MAKE LOVE ON AN EMPTY STOMACH\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n One of the biggest mistakes many couples make, is they relegate the lovemaking, the babymaking, the sex, to a time and place at the end of the day.\u00a0<\/p>\n And one of the worst things about this is many couples are eating far too late into the evening.<\/p>\n So instead of walking through the door into an evening of your usual routine of eat first, make love later \u2013 try reversing that, she says<\/p>\n By time they finally move to the bedroom, they are coming to their lovemaking with a full tummy and hormones that are more focused on digesting than being sexual.<\/p>\n Did you realise digestion is a hormonal process? Most people think of hormones as something most entirely about sexuality, but in fact all of our physiologic functions are hormonally driven.<\/p>\n When we are digesting, our endocrine systems send energy to break down and uptake all the nutrition and organise all of the functions that nourish you.<\/p>\n Now, by all means, we need our nourishment.\u00a0<\/p>\n But by prioritising lovemaking in front of digestion you will then be coming into your sexual uplift without any complications.\u00a0<\/p>\n So instead of walking through the door into an evening of your usual routine of eat first, make love later \u2013 try reversing that. Simple.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n Not only will you have better sex, less inhibited by the taxation of digestion, but you will then come to your supper with an increased appetite.<\/p>\n Making love with undistracted hormonal flow means your sexual hormones will have the upper hand and carry you to greater heights of more vigorous enjoyment.<\/p>\n FOREPLAY AND AFTERPLAY\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Afterplay. It\u2019s a lot like foreplay, but it\u2019s afterwards as well as before.<\/p>\n I\u2019m sure many of you have read tilting the hips after sex is a good idea, most especially when you are on your peak fertility days.\u00a0<\/p>\n And yes, this is no \u2018old wives tale\u2019, it is indeed good practice to help pool the semen up against the cervix, most especially when you have the clear \u2018egg white\u2019 stretchy mucous.<\/p>\n If you have the \u2018dry\u2019 mucous you see just after the period ends, you need not tilt hips during these days.\u00a0<\/p>\n Tilting the hips after sex is a good idea, most especially when you are on your peak fertility days. This is to help pool the semen up against the cervix<\/p>\n The dry mucous is designed to keep sperm out of your tightly closed cervix. Dry mucous is a time for uninhibited enjoy-yourself sex for sex\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n When that dry mucous begins to shift to wet, and then to stretchy, this is the time for tilting.<\/p>\n This is when the cervix begins to open and create a passageway for the sperm to enter.<\/p>\n What many people do not realise is a good orgasm is an important part of helping to maximise the potential for the most amount of sperm to move up and through the cervix.<\/p>\n Previous research inserted cameras to record what happens inside a woman during orgasm.<\/p>\n What they discovered is the cervix actually \u2018dips and gulps\u2019.\u00a0<\/p>\n This is a physiologic manoeuver that helps increase the movement of sperm through the cervix.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n So guys, here\u2019s a tip: once you have ejaculated inside of her, place your lover on a bed of pillows, tilting her hips to a 35 to 40 degree angle \u2013 and then do your best to drive her wild.<\/p>\n Women have a great capacity to orgasm, and, after you have had penetrative connection, you still have the ability to bring her off more.<\/p>\n Even just kissing, cuddling and caressing in this position will have great ability to enhance the flow of semen through the cervix.<\/p>\n PERIODS ARE FOR HIS PLEASURE\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Periods are a time for his pleasure, a focus that has everything to do with why you are lovers and nothing to do with making babies<\/p>\n One of the greatest mistakes that can happen for couples when trying to conceive is the relegation of your sexual play to focus primarily on having sex around peak fertility of ovulation.<\/p>\n When you are so caught up in the challenges of trying, it can be very easy to fall into the trap of only putting your sexual energy into the lovemaking that involves sperm delivery.<\/p>\n When yet another period begins to flow it is, of course, disappointing and quite devastating.\u00a0<\/p>\n But, it is vital to remember that on day 1 of your cycle the FSH and LH (follicle stimulating hormone and lutenising hormone) have begun their cyclical flow.<\/p>\n The next follicle may be the potential pregnancy is being stimulated into growth that will become the next opportunity to conceive.<\/p>\n It is so important to use this time of the period to focus on the needs of your lover.\u00a0<\/p>\n Periods are a brilliant opportunity for you to focus on lovemaking that has nothing to do with conception \u2013 but has everything to do with geeing up the hormonal fizz that is the sexual energy between you.<\/p>\n Periods are \u2013 a time for his pleasure, a focus that has everything to do with why you are lovers and nothing to do with making babies \u2013 yet.<\/p>\n By putting a sexual focus into this menstrual phase you are setting up a dynamic that means as you finish the period you are seamlessly stepping into the all important phase 2 \u2013 the pre-ovulatory phase.<\/p>\n Here it is important to really emphasise your lovemaking and build up the sexual tension that is going to crest you into the ovulation to give your bodies their best chance to really make a baby.<\/p>\n Being receptive to your lover, opening the pathways of lust and longing, is by far the most obvious and correct way to enhance that receptivity for conception<\/p>\n In the wise words of fertility expert Emma Cannon, \u2018pregnancy is a receptive process. You cannot achieve a pregnancy, you can only receive it\u2019.<\/p>\n All the advice in this article is geared towards just this.\u00a0<\/p>\n By being in your most sexual frame, you will best enhance your ability to receive.\u00a0<\/p>\n Being receptive to your lover, opening the pathways of lust and longing, is by far the most obvious and correct way to enhance that receptivity for conception.<\/p>\n The chemistry of attraction is the chemistry of conception. Take your eye off of the sperm and egg ball and put it firmly back in the court of \u2018Hey Baby, how can I make you horny?\u2019<\/p>\n This is by far the best way to make a baby.\u00a0<\/p>\n This article originally appeared and is republished here with the permission of <\/span><\/span>Healthista<\/span><\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/span>\u00a0<\/p>\n \n \n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Are you at it morning, day and night and still having no baby luck?\u00a0 The sight of a baby makes your heart melt and you don\u2019t want to wait any longer, you want to start a family. Although it\u2019s ultimately down to ‘Mother Nature’, there are some do\u2019s and don\u2019ts behind the art of conceiving. 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