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As the new year approaches, many of us will resolve to transform our bodies \u00e2\u20ac\u201d but what about our minds?<\/p>\n
Giving ourselves a mental makeover could be just as important as giving ourselves a physical one. But accomplishing that doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t just lie in changing our thoughts \u00e2\u20ac\u201d it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s also dependent on changing our words.<\/p>\n
How we speak \u00e2\u20ac\u201d to others and to ourselves \u00e2\u20ac\u201d has a huge impact on our overall outlook. So isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t it about time we started paying more attention to what we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re communicating?<\/p>\n
Below are 15 phrases that will transform the way you think, feel and act in the coming year. Using your words to change your life? Now that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s<\/em> a resolution worth keeping.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Please.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s among the smallest of words, but it suggests the biggest of manners \u00e2\u20ac\u201d which, quite honestly, need to make a comeback. There are a host of benefits that come with practicing good manners, from increasing social connection to helping you unplug. And think about it: Are you more likely to fulfill a favor if someone asks you nicely? There\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s power in \u00e2\u20ac\u0153please.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Because.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> For example, when asking to cut a line, study participants who said, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Excuse me, I have five pages. May I use the Xerox machine because I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m in a rush?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d were given more access than those who didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t give a reason for their request. Why? Because science says so.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Thank you.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n According to Binghamton University research, only a third of people accept a compliment graciously, Psychology Today reported. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s no secret that many of us get squeamish when receiving compliments \u00e2\u20ac\u201d and as a result, the response is usually laced with self-deprecating humor that brushes off a genuine statement. Saying \u00e2\u20ac\u0153thank you\u00e2\u20ac\u009d not only acknowledges the other person\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s kind words, but hopefully it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll help you believe them, too.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153How can I help you?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> Helping others isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t just good for them, it also can give you<\/em> a boost. Research shows that giving back can increase self-satisfaction and a sense of purpose, while volunteering can improve longevity.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Can you help me?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n Asking<\/em> for help also carries weight. There\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s nothing wrong with admitting that you need a little assistance. In fact, it can be transformative. We\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re often worried that asking for help makes us look stupid, but one study found that seeking advice can actually make you appear more<\/em> competent.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m too busy.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Goodnight.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n This phrase by itself isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t as important as when<\/em> you say it. Hint: Say it as soon as you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re tired. Too often, one of the first things we neglect is sleep, when we really should be prioritizing it. According to a recent survey, more than half of American adults say they need at least eight hours of sleep \u00e2\u20ac\u201d but nearly three quarters say they get less than that. Time to start hitting the hay earlier!<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m sorry.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hard to admit when we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re in the wrong, but doing so can drastically improve our lives (not to mention our relationships). Research shows that guilt can physically weigh us down \u00e2\u20ac\u201d so let it go with a heartfelt apology. Not sure how to go about it? Try these tips.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153No.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> As HuffPost President and Editor-In-Chief Arianna Huffington pointed out at a women\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s business conference in 2013, sometimes the best way to complete a project is by dropping it entirely. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153That doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean ignoring my other needs, but it means when I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m in it, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m really in it. And that means often saying no to good things, to things that you might want to do, but get in the way of sleep, or get in the way of being with your children, or whatever it is that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s also very important to you,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d she said.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m grateful for ____.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n Research shows that expressing gratitude can make us happier and healthier \u00e2\u20ac\u201d both common resolutions at the start of the new year. Keep a gratitude journal or just reflect on what you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re thankful for at the end of each day. Want to dig a little deeper? Try our 10-day gratitude challenge.<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Oh well.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s go.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong><\/p>\n When was the last time you embraced a little adventure? Statistics show that new experiences are at the top of our bucket lists, yet we rarely go out on a limb. Research also suggests that experiences \u00e2\u20ac\u201d not things \u00e2\u20ac\u201d make us happier. Why not travel off the beaten path this year?<\/p>\n \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Thank you for your message. I am currently out of the office.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Just breathe.<\/em>\u00e2\u20ac\u0153<\/strong><\/p>\n This may be the most basic yet most important thing you could tell yourself in the coming year. Pausing to breathe, to live in the moment, to let go of stress, is crucial to your well-being. If worries start to creep in, remind yourself to pause. You\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll feel better for it.<\/p>\n This GPS Guide is part of a series of posts designed to bring you back to balance when you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re feeling off course.<\/em><\/small><\/p>\n GPS Guides are our way of showing you what has relieved others\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 stress in the hopes that you will be able to identify solutions that work for you. We all have de-stressing \u00e2\u20ac\u0153secret weapons\u00e2\u20ac\u009d that we pull out in times of tension or anxiety, whether they be photos that relax us or make us smile, songs that bring us back to our heart, quotes or poems that create a feeling of harmony or meditative exercises that help us find a sense of silence and calm. 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\nIt\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s a simple word, but it could help you get what you want. According to research published in the new book Magic Words: The Science and Secrets Behind Seven Words That Motivate, Engage, and Influence<\/em>, those who reasoned with \u00e2\u20ac\u0153because\u00e2\u20ac\u009d in a sentence were more likely to receive what they asked for than those who made a request without the word.<\/p>\n
\nIf someone you love is going through a hard time, sometimes the best way to support them is just offering<\/em> to do so. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153If you really want to help somebody, then the way you should go about it is to ask yourself if you can be supportive of the individual in a way that allows them to tell you about what they\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re experiencing and why they may be experiencing that,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Todd Farchione, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist at the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University, previously told HuffPost Healthy Living.<\/p>\n
\nThis one is incredibly important. Put this phrase in your memory \u00e2\u20ac\u201d then completely erase it.<\/em> In the past year, we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve been more burned out than ever, and our constant busyness is standing in the way of our capacity for joy. As author Agapi Stassinopoulos put it in a HuffPost blog this year, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153[H]ere\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s to the end of glorification for our culture\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s busyness, getting things done on little sleep, and feeling like we have to catch up with the race \u00e2\u20ac\u201d because ultimately there is no race except for the one we assign ourselves to.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d In 2015, let\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s eliminate the word busy. And actually mean it.<\/p>\n
\nTempted by those leftover holiday cookies while working on your healthy resolutions? Swap \u00e2\u20ac\u0153can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t\u00e2\u20ac\u009d for \u00e2\u20ac\u0153don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d A study published in the Journal of Consumer Research found that people who used phrases like \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t eat cookies\u00e2\u20ac\u009d had more self-control and positive behavior changes than those who said \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t eat cookies.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n
\nYou can do anything, but not everything. Sometimes it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s simply OK to just say \u00e2\u20ac\u0153no\u00e2\u20ac\u009d if you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re too overwhelmed, especially if it means you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll avoid burnout.<\/p>\n
\nNot everything is going to turn out the way we planned \u00e2\u20ac\u201d and that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s more than OK. Accepting life as it is instead of worrying about how it \u00e2\u20ac\u0153should\u00e2\u20ac\u009d be can be a freeing feeling. Stressing over the little things can negatively impact our lifespan, take a toll on our bodies and more. As one of 2014\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s most popular songs advised, let it go.<\/p>\n
\nOK, so technically you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re<\/em> not saying this, your inbox is \u00e2\u20ac\u201d but this typed phrase is still vital to your well-being. Statistics show that Americans are too stressed and too scared to take their vacation days, and instead surrender to burnout and overwhelm at work. Planning a vacation \u00e2\u20ac\u201d whether it be a real one or just one from your email \u00e2\u20ac\u201d can boost your happiness and reduce stress. So let your Out of Office do the talking, and plan to take some time for yourself this year.<\/p>\n