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Last year my good friend captured this beautiful candid moment with my then 4-month-old daughter Zoe. When I saw it for the first time, tears began streaming down my face. These weren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t tears of sadness, rather tears of immense joy.<\/p>\n
This picture captured me arriving at a place of inner peace, calm, and happiness that I had spent most of my life searching for. <\/p>\n
You see, I had spent too many years living the life I thought was expected of me, rather than the life that was true to me. I had always looked up to my father and wanted to model his success as an entrepreneur. So I got my business degree, and by 25, I had built a million-dollar human resources company. <\/p>\n
I exhausted myself striving for perfection\u00e2\u20ac\u201cthe perfect house, perfect family, perfect body. The money came in, and I filled my life with stuff\u00e2\u20ac\u201cexpensive stuff. But it was never enough. The newness always wore off and I soon needed something better to make me feel good. My penchant for new and better stuff left me feeling unfulfilled, and my bank account took an unhealthy hit as well.<\/p>\n
What I really wanted was the same thing all of us want: happiness. How I went about finding it, however, delivered only temporary bursts of pleasure, not lasting joy.<\/p>\n
The fact is, today we have more food, cars, and clothes, better health, double the income, bigger houses, and more conveniences than we had 50 years ago. Yet, according to the World Database of Happiness, we have not become any happier. In fact, once a person has enough income to live on, additional wealth has little impact on happiness.<\/p>\n
I was successful in the eyes of the world, because I was an entrepreneur with a growing business, and had all the material wealth and status that came along with that. Yet despite my professional success, privately I was falling apart\u00e2\u20ac\u201cdepressed, hopeless, miserable, and hiding an eating disorder from my family and from the world. <\/p>\n
I walked away from the financial stability of my business and embarked on a crusade of self-discovery, diving into self-development and seeking mentors to help me heal and grow. Eventually I found my true path: to be a leadership coach and speaker empowering women to think and play bigger in their personal and professional lives.<\/p>\n
This did not happen overnight. It was a years-long process of discovering who I am at my core, what work I was put here to do, and what I want my legacy to be. Along the way, I learned why my quest for success had gone so wrong. <\/p>\n
The measure of a successful life isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t your job title, the size of your house, or the beautiful things you can afford. True success is living the life that is authentic to who you are. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s living fully\u00c2\u00a0and fulfilling your true purpose on earth while embracing joy. <\/p>\n
To find true happiness, you need to define success by what holds real meaning in your life \u00e2\u20ac\u201d relationships, making a difference, and living authentically. I can almost promise you that if you chase after the next best thing, you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll be disappointed. After the short-term thrill, you will be let down once the newness wears off.<\/p>\n
So here are six ways you can define your own version of success:<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. Create your own standards.<\/strong> Quit judging yourself according to other people\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s definitions of success. Decide what is most important in your life \u00e2\u20ac\u201d perhaps it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s happy relationships, a successful career, or health and fitness. Then for each one, find a way to measure your progress that is meaningful to you. <\/p>\n 2. Choose the path of fulfillment<\/strong>. You can have all the money in the world, the finest house in the neighborhood, and the most impressive job title, but it won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t mean a thing unless you are living the life you were meant to live. Find your calling in life. Listen to your heart. And aim for inner fulfillment, not external symbols of success. <\/p>\n 3. Focus on doing one percent more.<\/strong> It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s important to set goals, but once you know where you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re heading, it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s time to turn your focus to each step of the journey. If you commit yourself to doing and giving just a little bit more than you were willing to yesterday, you will bring yourself closer every day to your ultimate goal of success. <\/p>\n 4. Set intrinsic verses ego goals.<\/strong> Decide what character muscles you want to build while in pursuit of your goals. Who do you want to become? What character muscles do you want to grow? By creating success measures that are intrinsically rooted, rather than ego based, will help you to create real change and sustain your motivation during challenging times.<\/p>\n 5. Gift it forward. <\/strong>Knowing that you have done your part to make the world a better place can bring the greatest sense of fulfillment of all. When you measure your success, ask yourself: have I made a difference to someone\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s life? Do my efforts help to improve the world around me? <\/p>\n 6. Develop resilience. <\/strong>No matter what your ultimate goal is or how you measure success, inevitably there will be roadblocks in your way. You will make mistakes, and things won\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t always go your way. The difference between success and failure is whether you learn from those mistakes and persevere in the face of setbacks \u00e2\u20ac\u201d or give up on your dream.<\/p>\n For me, authentic happiness has emerged from a combination of passion, confidence, optimism and the pursuit of a lifestyle that gives me what I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve always wanted: to be fully present to my children as they grow up, to know that I am making a valuable difference in the lives of others, and to be grounded in who I am and what I stand for.<\/p>\n After all, isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t it our innate human desire to know that our life matters? Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t we all want to be assured that we are living lives of significance and will leave the world a little better than when we found it?<\/p>\n Decide on your own measures of success. Own them. And commit to living them today.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Last year my good friend captured this beautiful candid moment with my then 4-month-old daughter Zoe. When I saw it for the first time, tears began streaming down my face. These weren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t tears of sadness, rather tears of immense joy. This picture captured me arriving at a place of inner peace, calm, and happiness that […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-366","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/366","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=366"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/366\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=366"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=366"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/healthmedicinet.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=366"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}