Some of the most moving stories to emerge from the resistance revolve around acts of kindness. In November, a few weeks after the election, a Texas man stood outside of a mosque with a sign that read: \u201cYou Belong. Stay Strong. Be Blessed. We Are One America.\u201d When a Jewish cemetery in St. Louis was vandalized in February, a campaign organized by Muslim-Americans raised more than $160,000 to repair the damage.\u00a0<\/p>\n
<\/span><\/p>\n Heinz knows from many years of activism that it can be tricky to balance outrage with kindness. For her it often means transforming anger into action rather than letting the emotion swallow her whole. At the same time, she continues to look for opportunities to lend a hand in small and large ways. In the past several months, that has included taking soup to sick friends, giving more money to GoFundMe campaigns for strangers in need, and \u201crage donating\u201d to the ACLU.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cThe idea that I was giving to other humans in pain was a helpful feeling to me,\u201d says Heinz.\u00a0<\/p>\n That positive emotions flow from kindness may seem intuitive, but scientists are just beginning to understand how that happens. The behavior we casually call kindness is defined as \u201cprosociality\u201d in scientific research. That umbrella term encompasses actions we take to help others without concern for our own personal benefit, which can be as minor as holding the door for a stranger and as life-changing as donating an organ.\u00a0<\/p>\n Some researchers once believed that coming to someone\u2019s aid was the psychological equivalent of eating vegetables \u2014 an ultimately beneficial act but one that required self-control to complete because it objectively didn\u2019t seem that fun or personally rewarding.\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Jamil Zaki, director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Laboratory, says that view doesn\u2019t hold up to emerging research that reveals when people are kind, they engage parts of their brain associated with instinctive behavior like drinking water and eating. It also produces activity in regions of the brain linked to reward-based decision-making, where the feel-good chemical dopamine plays an integral role. So instead of seeing generosity as a vegetable you tolerate, Zaki says it\u2019s more like chocolate, something you crave and enjoy. \u00a0<\/p>\n There is increasing evidence of a cause-and-effect link between kindness, brain chemistry and personal happiness. Lara Aknin, an assistant professor in the department of psychology at Simon Fraser University, says kindness positively influences our emotional and physiological well-being. In a 2010 study, she and other researchers gave 50 college students an envelope with $10 and instructed them to share as much as they liked with students in the room who hadn\u2019t received anything. The more money students kept, the more negative emotions they felt, including shame.\u00a0<\/p>\n Aknin also took saliva samples from the students to measure their levels of the stress hormone cortisol before they received the money and after they decided what to do with it. Feelings of shame predicted a slower cortisol recovery. Meanwhile, those who gave more money away reported more positive feelings. Aknin has replicated the finding that giving more money predicts more happiness in more recent studies.\u00a0<\/p>\n There are, however, some limitations to people\u2019s goodwill. If people feel forced to do kind deeds, says Aknin, the emotional benefits are diminished or disappear altogether. People also like to see that their actions have a positive impact for others and in-person experiences seem to be much more rewarding.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cGenerosity tends to lead to greater happiness when it allows people to create a social connection,\u201d says Aknin.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n That insight is essential to understanding the role of kindness in the resistance movement against the Trump administration. Instead of claiming generosity with a smug or selfish attitude, it can become a rallying cry for building genuine solidarity with unlikely allies and communities or individuals whose lives and livelihoods are under attack.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cIn times like these, we can try to do whatever soothes our conscience or mind,\u201d says Zaki. \u201cBut if you look at [kindness] only in that way, it becomes something shallow \u2026 There\u2019s something more potentially important than feeling good as an individual, which is forming community.\u201d \u00a0<\/p>\n If you feel too exhausted or cynical to practice kindness, you\u2019re not alone.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201c[I]n our culture, there are lots and lots of adrenalized people,\u201d says Frederic Luskin, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, referring to adrenaline, which the body releases when the brain perceives a threat to survival. \u201cWhen you\u2019re dealing with fear, people don\u2019t make great decisions and [they] react emotionally.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n Even if kindness is instinctive, negative feelings like anxiety and panic can drown out good intentions. Research on compassion, forgiveness and meditation, however, shows that we can tame those powerful emotions. Compassion, says Luskin, helps us create goodwill toward people, even those with whom we disagree. Consistent meditation can change the way the brain responds to stress and fear. Forgiveness research even shows people can co-exist with people they once hated.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cThese are psychological techniques we could be using to turn down the temperature,\u201d Luskin says. Basically, the calmer our brains become \u2014 even when engaged in serious, complex questions about government policies \u2014- the easier it is to practice kindness.\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Expecting generosity from everyone resisting Trump ignores the reality that people will suffer differently. For the undocumented immigrant fighting deportation, kindness may remain important, but so is getting legal representation. And we wouldn\u2019t demand that person calmly practice compassion or forgiveness toward Trump himself or his voters, even if those principles are a guiding force of kindness.\u00a0<\/p>\n That\u2019s where the mantra of \u201ckindness of everything\u201d becomes messy and, well, flawed. Critics of the left may even call it hypocritical, particularly if being kind only applies to helping those who share your ideological beliefs.\u00a0<\/p>\n At the same time, it can seem self-defeating to show goodwill to someone who isn\u2019t very interested in reciprocating it, or who endorses bigotry in words or policy. Trump voters, many of whom surely practice acts of kindness, might find unexpected allies among the opposition if they focused on those moments, even if it means rejecting some of Trump\u2019s objectionable rhetoric and actions. And yet, healing our festering political divisions requires a political and moral reckoning far beyond what individual acts of kindness can achieve.\u00a0<\/p>\n But kindness can offer something essential: an emotional boost for the weary and a powerful way to counter Trump\u2019s nasty rhetoric and divisive policies. On this long journey, those resisting Trump will need every ounce they can get.\u00a0<\/p>\n Some of the most moving stories to emerge from the resistance revolve around acts of kindness. In November, a few weeks after the election, a Texas man stood outside of a mosque with a sign that read: \u201cYou Belong. Stay Strong. Be Blessed. 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