7 Major Benefits of Settling
We all have that friend—the one who insists she’s single because she simply won’t “settle†for a totally eligible guy with a few less-than-ideal traits and quirks. But while she’s searching for perfect, she’s missing out on pretty-darn-great. So maybe we should stop calling it “settling†and start calling it something else—like reframing your mindset or learning how to find a great guy for you, quirks and all. Here, 13 reasons it’s a good idea to do just that, all courtesy of April Masini, relationship expert and author of Think and Date Like a Man.
1. So what if his job is as a barista at the local coffee shop? Hey—coffee is a major import in this country!
2. The fact that he lives with his mother is a perk in disguise—just think of all that money he’s saving by not paying rent…and how it can now be going toward gifts for you!
3. You may be Angelina Jolie, but that doesn’t mean you should wait for Brad Pitt just to get down. If you did, you would be waiting a very long time… . And once you’ve been together for a couple of years, sex will seem so much less exciting than snuggle sessions and marathon Netflix bingeing, anyway.
4. Maybe his short-shorts will eventually come back into style? If not, that’s what shopping is for.
5. At first, his birthday wish for a threesome was a bit off-putting. But think about it: At least he’s up for keeping things interesting in bed.
6. He may be 5’6″—but he’s also the first man in recent memory who opened you car door, paid the tab, and dropped you back at your front door. And all without having an involved plot to work his way inside!
7. He may wiggle and jiggle a little in places where your ex had washboard abs. But dating a guy who’s carrying around a little extra weight guarantees one thing, if nothing else: He can never judge your relationship with your good friends Ben and Jerry.
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