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Stubbs recommends using a condom on this toy for easier cleanup. It’s worth noting that you can also use the beads in the vagina, but it has less of an effect because your sphincter clamps down harder on them than your vag, she says.

If it’s your first time trying butt play, be sure you’ve had a bowel movement before getting started: The lower part of your colon is your BM storage facility, so will be a lot less comfortable if the area’s not clear. If you still can’t get over the idea of encountering poop, Stubbs says you can give yourself an enema from the drugstore. Just dump out the solution (the oil-based ones are messy and meant for constipation) and use warm filtered water instead.

Once you’re in the clear, start anal play slowly, using tons of oil-based lubricant with a finger. (Check out the Women’s Health Boutique for organic lubes and other body-friendly intimacy products.) Keep the communication flowing during the whole process and speak up if something doesn’t feel right. There are lots of nerve endings inside the anus and the thin tissues tear easily, she says. If you feel pulling or tugging, stop and add more lubricant. Once you’re ready for beads, start with the smallest size and work your way up. Then, slowly remove the beads during orgasm for more stimulation. “The sensory overload feels lovely,” says Stubbs. 

Utimi Silicone Anal Plug with Anal Beads, $11.99, amazon.com