Long-Term Couples Reveal the Sex Positions That Keep Their Romance Alive
Illustration by Byron Gray/ The Big Book of Sex
Lap Dance
Kyle J., 26, and Tricia J., 27
Together: 6 years
Perfect for the Netflix-and-chill couple, he sits on the couch or edge of the bed, while you straddle him. Not only is it a super-comfy position for both of you, but it frees up your hands to do all kinds of…wandering.
He likes it because: “Um, hello? Boobs. In my face.”
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She likes it because: “He’s a very enthusiastic thruster, so this position puts me in the driver’s seat.”
They shake things up by: turning around. “After I back up onto him, he does this thing where he grabs me and pulls me right up against him, so I can get my grind on. It’s kind of like spooning while sitting up, and it hits me in all the right places,” says Tricia.
Or, have him spread his legs wide before you back yourself into his lap. “I clamp my legs shut to keep things tight, then bob up and down. Sometimes we’ll do it at the kitchen table so I can use it for support when my legs get tired. Otherwise, I lean on his thighs for balance,” she says.
Illustration by Byron Gray/ The Big Book of Sex
Doggy Style
Bryan S., 32, and Aimee P., 30
Together: 8 years
You’d think that getting stuck on all fours while your guy gets down and dirty would be, well, boring after a while (or at the very least, hard on your arms). Luckily, there are oodles of doggy style variations to keep things interesting.
He likes it because: “The view. I have a front row seat to the action without any neck strain. Plus, it’s as close to anal as she lets me get.”
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She likes it because: “It’s the perfect position when you want to skip the appetizers and go straight to dessert.”
Shake things up by: resting your head and arms on the bed while keeping your hips raised. “He’s able to go way deeper, and I can give my clit a workout,”says Aimee.
But there’s one variation they can’t get enough of. “I plant my feet firmly on the floor, legs spread, and lie facedown on the bed,” she says. “Then he lies on my back and penetrates from behind. I’m not one to let anybody call the shots, so it’s a super hot moment for both of us.”
Illustration by Byron Gray/ The Big Book of Sex
Spooning
Patrick R., 31, and Kayleigh M., 31
Together: 5 years
Nothing beats this classic morning sex move. There’s just something about a PG-13 snuggle morphing into straight-up sex that makes an early riser out of anyone.
He likes it because: “She works days and I work nights, so when we do cross paths in bed, we’re both too tired to get fancy. It’s win/win.”
She likes it because: “The surprise factor for me is a total turn-on—especially since it’s a position that gives him the upper hand.” (Get a little wet and wild while you spoon with this organic lube from the Women’s Health Boutique.)
Shake things up by: hooking your foot around his top leg. “It switches up the angle of penetration, and I can twist to make out with him without worrying he’s going to slide out,” says Kayleigh.
And to increase the intensity of his thrusts, have him roll onto his back—and take you with him. “When I’m on top, but still facing away from him, I lean my elbows on either side of him for balance. He can thrust, I can grind, and it does wonders for my G-spot.”