Should You Go Through Your S.O.¹s Phone? A Flow Chart

No matter how much you trust your partner, seeing an unlocked phone or open Facebook page is tempting as hell. And, as it turns out, giving into the urge to snoop isn’t necessarily a no-no, says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a relationship therapist in New York.

“I work with many patients who have checked through their significant other’s texts, email, or social media accounts and on many occasions have found things that are really cause for concern, like boundary issues, emotional cheating, or sexual cheating,” Kerner says. “In many of those cases, my clients felt relieved to know that they’re not crazy and that snooping led to productive conversations and sometimes even therapy that strengthens the relationship.” (Dance your way fit with High-Intensity Dance Cardio, the first-ever socanomics DVD!)