The One Question to Ask Yourself Before Starting a Fight with Your S.O.

The next time you’re about to freak over his not remembering your coworker’s name again, ask yourself this Q: Will you give a crap one year from now? A new study in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science found that this “future thinking” trick made people less likely to blame their partners during an argument and more likely to forgive them after the fight.

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The authors reason that pausing a moment to gain some perspective when you’re miffed can prevent the heat of the moment from clouding your mind (and filling your mouth with words you can’t take back). And, since you’re seeing the future in a better light, you may expect your bond to get stronger over time, which (yay!) can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.