Whether you went on your honeymoon 12 years ago, or don’t plan on going on one for another 12 years, you can create the wedding-night sex vibe by triggering your reward system, says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., an anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of The First Sex. This sends feel-good chemicals dopamine and epinephrine, the same hormones your body pumps out when you’re super blissed out—like on your wedding day.
In the morning, use a ballpoint pen to write him a sexy note somewhere on his body. Try the top of his thigh (prime real estate, with minimum exposure to coworkers). Giving him (and yourself) nine or 10 hours to see, think about, and fantasize about your note starts the percolation process.
Once you’re both home, have him hold your head with both hands, tilt your head back, and gently kiss the side of your neck.
Ask him to stay away from your traditional “go-to” spots, kissing the parts of your body he usually ignores, like the inside of your elbow or your hipbone.
Now that you’re under the covers, expand your repertoire of oral sex—a nice reward in itself. Paget suggests the Kivin method: Have him lie perpendicular to your body, which allows him to stroke your clitoris with your tongue in a crosswise motion, rather than up and down.