Do you want to learn how to be humble, yet are worried about becoming a doormat?
It’s a near universal concern when it comes to be humility. It goes like this: If I become humble, people will:
Run over me.
Take advantage of me.
Lose respect for me.
Think I am a wimp.
Some people who want to learn how to be humble are even worried about losing their jobs. They are afraid of losing their winning edge.
I have great news.
Learning how to be humble is not the same as learning how to be a wimp!
In fact, humility requires a special strength that arrogant people don’t have. In reality, learning how to be humble will make you stronger and much less likely to be taken advantage of.
If you take the time to learn how to become genuinely humble, you will be in possession of a true gift; the gift that the greatest leaders throughout history have possessed. There is nothing quite like it.
Learning how to be humble is not easy, but there are principles that make it doable. Here is the secret formula – it has three parts.
How to be Humble – The Three Principles
1. Learn to see people as people.
Seeing people as people means that you do not make yourself more than OR less than others. You do not elevate yourself and your needs above others and you do not elevate others above you. We are all equal in our basic worth.
This doesn’t mean that others do not have roles with more or less authority than you. It means that even with those roles, you understand that we all have the same intrinsic worth.
So, you can stop worrying about who is better or worse, more important or less important. People are people.
2. See the needs of others and respond to them.
There is an art to responding to needs that involves two principles.
First, understand that eeds are not wants and wants are not needs. Just because you want something doesn’t mean you need it.
Second, people do not always want what is best for them, so they often need to hear “no.†Blindly giving people what they want just to avoid conflict is not the best thing to do for them.
True humility seeks to meet the true needs of others, even when they need to be denied what they want or receive corrective action.
3. See yourself in others.
Humble people tend to see themselves in others, take personal responsibility and have compassion. If you are humble, you understand the things that bug you about others have origins within yourself.
With this understanding, you seek to improve yourself while having compassion for others.
How to be humble: Use the above three principles in conjunction with each other. They all apply!
The above principles can be used to form a personal paradigm that – if you adopt it – virtually guarantees that you will be more humble.
Why learn how to be humble?
Humble people are happier. They waste less time arguing. They aren’t victims. They see the world and others clearly. They make better leaders. They have less stress. They get stuck less often. The make better decisions. They are disappointed less often.
And they simply make the world a better place.
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    Last reviewed: 11 Jun 2013
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