Kim Bongiorno: The Most Important Conversation I’ve Had With My Daughter About Her Body


I was sitting on a toilet, feeling astounded and kind of insulted, when we satisfied we had an event before me like no other.

It began with a need to pee: initial my 5-year-old daughter, afterwards me.

As we was sitting on a toilet and she was soaking her hands, still though pants, she declared, “Mama, we have fat legs! Not like cave — demeanour during mine.”

She afterwards ran her palm along her twiggy small leg, like Vanna White on some vicious chronicle of Wheel of Fortune.

I looked down during my lumpy dark thighs in comparison, squashed opposite a porcelain throne’s chair like bread mix that refused to rise.

In a peep we was behind in a kitchen of a residence we grew adult in, articulate to my own mom.

My mom pronounced some troubled criticism or another about what we was eating, and how one day I’d know what it was like to have hips like hers.

I was befuddled. Already good into my teen years, my hip skeleton simply protruded from my physique during pointy angles, afterwards uniformly dipped towards a prosaic stomach. we poked during my hips, feeling zero though skin and bone.

“I don’t get it — how can skeleton get fat on them?” we was honestly curious. we looked to her for an answer.

My mom got all perplexed and her voice shook. “You wait and see.” Then she ran from a kitchen, locking herself in her bedroom.

That stage was twenty years ago, before we truly accepted how most my mom hated how her hips looked.

If we had been a some-more supportive lady behind then, her greeting to my thinness and her enterprise to be thinner could have done me fear weight gain. Made me consider it was normal to be troubled by my possess changing body. Made me trust in one ideal physique, that was not genetically in a cards for me.

I refused to let this review finish as badly as that one could have.

I took my eyes off my adipose thigh and looked during my daughter.

“Good job, you’re right! There is some-more fat on my legs than yours. When we turn a grown-up, we get all sorts of pleasing curves like this. Isn’t that exciting?”

She looked during her small legs, afterwards mine, afterwards behind to hers. Then she smiled. “I’m gonna demeanour like we when I’m a growned-up?”

“Yep. And I looked like you when I was 5. It’s kind of fun removing to demeanour opposite when we get older, dontcha think?”

She started hopping excitedly, and replied “Yeah! And we get bigger and comparison each day, Mama!”

With a grin on her face, she dashed out of a lavatory feeling assured in her stream spare legs, and looking brazen to what a beef of Motherhood will do to her hips twenty years from now, withdrawal her pants and a carefree mom in her wake.

This essay was creatively posted as “Her Future Fat Thighs” on InThePowderRoom.com.

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