6 Signs A Couple Is Headed for Divorce, According To Therapists

If you notice any of these happening in your marriage, Durvasula says it’s important to see a marriage therapist—and fast. “With a skilled therapist who is able to honestly cut to the core of the issues, and address communication and other underlying issues, a couple can sift through the wreckage and make an estimation of whether they want to work on this,” she says. However, she adds, there are no guarantees. “As long as one person wants out, it can be hard to save the marriage,” she says. “Marriage is important and valuable [but] not all relationships were meant to be ‘saved.’”

Try to keep in mind that just because you’ve been fighting, it doesn’t mean you’re headed for divorce. “It’s quite normal for marriages to have ups and downs, and some of these can be rather intense,” Cilona says. However, if don’t notice these signs in your relationship but you feel like your marriage isn’t as great as it can be, it never hurts to get help from a therapist.