What A 23 Year Old Learned From Surviving Breast Cancer


Barely out of college, Stacy Leung had no reason to worry about strange lumps. Or so she thought.

As told to Jihan Thompson

The first thing I did when I got the news was drink a blueberry Slurpee.

My coworker Tim, who found me that Monday morning, red-eyed, sitting in an empty office at our financial firm, assumed I’d had a bad weekend. Maybe a fight with my boyfriend. In fact, moments before, I’d gotten the results from a biopsy of the lump in my left breast: cancer. When I told Tim, he barely said a word. The news, so raw, hung there between us until he broke the silence: “Do you want to get Slurpees?”

I did. Because going for Slurpees felt normal. It was our answer to botched assignments, long meetings and generally crummy days — all the things that, until now, had seemed as bad as it could get. I was 23 years old. I was used to worrying about which senior managers I should suck up to, which shoes I should buy, who my intramural rugby team was up against next. And on that cool day in April, as we sat on the curb outside 7-Eleven in Baltimore, I wanted to hold on to that life — a life suddenly made spectacular by just how unexciting it was.

When my boyfriend, Josh, had first felt the lump, I assumed it would go away on its own, like all the other lumps, bumps and bruises before it. I’d actually waited three months to tell my doctor — and I probably would have waited longer if I hadn’t needed to see her for what I thought was a more pressing concern: seasonal allergies. My doctor seemed as unconcerned about the lump as I was, but she referred me to a radiologist anyway.

It turned out to be aggressive stage II cancer. The tumor (all 2.8 centimeters of it) was removed, and I gave myself over to the care of my parents and Josh. While my friends were out day-drinking their weekends away, planning trips to the beach and meeting at the mall, I stayed home. I was so wiped out by the chemo that I could barely fold a T-shirt.

And then, after a few rounds of radiation, the cancer was gone. I would live. I would get to keep my life, but what life? For the past year, I had been talking to my boss about transferring to our company’s new office in Shanghai. That was out. The national tournament for my club basketball team was coming up in less than a month. I wouldn’t play. I had gone from freaking out about missing a single birth control pill to asking my boyfriend of seven years if he wanted to fertilize my eggs. (The chemo, I’d learned, could send me into early menopause.) My fertility doctor gently urged me to save some unfertilized eggs in case things didn’t work out with Josh; I didn’t have to decide right then if he was the man I was going to have kids with. My panic was the cancer talking, as it bombarded me with life choices I wasn’t really ready to make.

Cancer sucked. It was lonely. I was bruised and hairless and tired. But as banged up as my body was, it was still mine. And slowly I started to put it back in action. Five months after my final treatment, I played in my first postcancer rugby game. My teammates thought I was crazy, but I packed extra padding over my chest, ran onto the field and powered through every tackle and dive. I felt alive.

Last fall I pushed my body further still, biking 220 miles in the Young Survival Coalition’s Tour de Pink from Philadelphia to Washington, D.C. On the day we neared the 70-mile mark, I was spent. There was a “poop out” bus that riders could take to the next pit stop, but I had committed to biking every inch of the course. As the sun began to set, a man whose wife had survived breast cancer slowed to go the last few miles of the day with me.

When I was a kid, I used to ride a purple bike with white handlebars and metallic streamers. In Baltimore I got around on a crappy ten-speed I found on Craigslist. Riding those bikes was easy. There was a simplicity to life back then. But there’s always been something about tackling a hill — pressing down on the pedals with everything you’ve got, teeth gritted, legs aching — until you push past the hard part, regain your balance and fly.

Fact: More than 85% of women who develop breast cancer have no family history of the disease.

Could it happen to you?

Setting the record straight about young women and breast cancer.

What are the odds?
Roughly 5 percent of new breast cancer cases occur in women under 40 — about 13,000 diagnoses each year. “The younger you are, the lower the odds, but I have diagnosed breast cancer in women as young as 18,” says Therese Bevers, MD, medical director of the Cancer Prevention Center at MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston. The good news: The five-year survival rate for women under 40 is 84 percent.

Is breast cancer among young women on the rise?
According to a 2013 study in The Journal of the American Medical Association, the incidence of localized breast cancer among women under 40 showed no increase between 1976 and 2009. But the incidence of metastatic breast cancer (which is less common) nearly doubled over the same span.

Are self-exams still best?
Early detection is especially key for young women, as premenopausal breast cancer is often more aggressive and harder to treat than breast cancer in older women. “Nearly 80 percent of younger women find their own breast cancer lumps,” says Jennifer Merschdorf, CEO of the Young Survival Coalition. “It’s natural for young women to have lumpy breasts or cysts, and in most cases, nothing is wrong. But if a lump doesn’t go away, you should absolutely get it checked out.”

I found a lump. What tests should my doctor perform?
Mariana Chavez-Mac Gregor, MD, an assistant professor of breast medical oncology at MD Anderson Cancer Center, assesses the three most widely used options:

  • Ultrasound. “In young women, most of the time we order an ultrasound first,” Chavez-Mac Gregor says. They’re quick, simple and good at evaluating cysts — small, usually benign fluid-filled sacs many women have in their breasts.
  • Mammogram. “Young breasts tend to be very dense, so a mammogram will likely not show you much, but it can detect things like calcifications that an ultrasound can’t,” Chavez-Mac Gregor says.
  • MRI. Because the highly detailed pictures they yield can sometimes trigger unnecessary biopsies of normal lumps, MRIs are often reserved for women who have tested positive for a breast cancer gene mutation (like BRCA1 or 2) or have a strong family history of the disease.

If I do have cancer, will treatment rob me of my chance to have kids?
Some chemotherapy drugs have been found to genetically damage or destroy eggs or send patients into a type of medical menopause. Don’t panic. The younger the patient, the more likely her ovaries and eggs will recover. And the options for patients whose infertility proves permanent are expanding: Now that the American Society of Reproductive Medicine has officially endorsed egg freezing for young women with cancer, it’s expected that more insurance companies will cover parts of the costly procedure.


Your Support Team

These groups help young women navigate prevention, detection and recovery.

Bright Pink
This nonprofit educates young women about prevention and early detection. You can get “Underwire Alerts,” monthly text reminders to do breast checks, at BrightPink.org.

Young Survival Coalition (YSC)
“Before I was diagnosed, I didn’t know young women could get breast cancer,” says the group’s CEO, Jennifer Merschdorf. “But I quickly found out about YSC and went to one of the support groups. The women I met helped me get through it.” YSC runs in-person support meetings around the country, plus online forums at YoungSurvival.org.

Cancer and Careers
Maintaining a job while undergoing treatment can be tricky. “One of my friends works at a law firm surrounded by men who are after her job,” Merschdorf says. “She doesn’t want to be treated differently because she’s been sick, but if she bursts into a sweat from hot flashes caused by her medication, that can be hard to conceal.” At CancerandCareers.org, survivors can get career coaching and legal advice about workplace rights.

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  • Kathy Bates

    The actress, who beat ovarian cancer close to a decade ago, shared last month that she had been a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/12/kathy-bates-breast-cancer-double-mastectomy_n_1878208.html”diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent a double mastectomy/a, The Huffington Post reported at the time.

    “Luckily, I don’t have to undergo radiation or chemo,” a href=”http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20628972,00.html”she told emPeople/em magazine/a. “My family calls me Kat because I always land on my feet and thankfully this is no exception.”

    a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/12/kathy-bates-breast-cancer-double-mastectomy_n_1878208.html”She also shared the news on Twitter/a — with her signature sense of humor intact. “I don’t miss my breasts as much as I miss Harry’s Law. Thanks for all the sweet tweets,” she wrote. “Y’all kept me going.”

  • Maura Tierney

    Tierney was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2009, but she didn’t open up publicly about it until earlier this year. “I remember thinking, ‘I’m so young, this can’t be happening,’” a href=”http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20611140,00.html”she told emPeople/em magazine/a.

    “In 2009, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and found out I would need chemotherapy,” a href=”http://www.chemomythsorfacts.com/index.html”she said in a video for the Chemotherapy Myths Or Facts campaign/a. “I asked myself all these questions and was utterly terrified, not just because of the cancer diagnosis, but the fear of chemo itself.”

    And that sense of the unknown is what triggered Tierney, whose cancer was found in its early stages, to sign up as a spokesperson for the campaign. “It’s important that you feel educated and confident during this time,” a href=”http://www.chemomythsorfacts.com/index.html”she said in her introductory video/a.

  • Judy Blume

    The beloved author of favorites such as “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret,” and “Tales Of A Fourth Grade Nothing,” revealed that she was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma in a a href=”http://www.judyblume.com/blog.php”blog post on her website this past September/a.

    “I haven’t eaten red meat in more than 30 years. I’ve never smoked, I exercise every day, forget alcohol — it’s bad for my reflux — I’ve been the same weight my whole adult life,” a href=”http://www.judyblume.com/blog.php”she wrote/a. “How is this possible? Well, guess what — it’s possible.”

    a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/05/invasive-ductal-carcinoma-judy-blume-breast-cancer_n_1858418.html”Blume had a mastectomy/a on July 30. a href=”http://www.judyblume.com/blog.php”She wrote in her blog/a:

    blockquoteAs I’ve told my friends who’ve also been treated for breast cancer, I’ve joined The Club — not one I wanted to join or even thought I would ever be joining — but here I am. I’m part of this Sisterhood of the Traveling Breast Cells (apologies to Ann Brashares). Medical diagnoses can leave you feeling alone and scared. When it comes to breast cancer you’re not alone, and scary though it is, there’s a network of amazing women to help you through it./blockquote

  • Ann Romney

    Wife to Republican presidential hopeful Mitt Romney, Ann was a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/03/ann-romney-breast-cancer_n_1475950.html”diagnosed with breast cancer in early 2009/a.

    “It’s great to have loved ones around you,” a href=”http://www.americasradionewsnetwork.com/ann-romney-reflects-on-her-personal-battle-with-breast-cancer”she told America’s Radio News Network in an interview/a earlier this year of where she found post-diagnosis comfort. “And you just fight these battles, listen you don’t fight them alone. You fight them with friends and with family. And you put your arms around each other and you move forward.”

    Romney, whose mother and grandmother died from ovarian cancer and whose great-grandmother died from breast cancer, told the program a href=”http://www.americasradionewsnetwork.com/uploads/mp3/showclips/05-03-12ANNROMNEY1.mp3?she’s most grateful to have been diagnosed early/a — she needed surgery and radiation, but not chemo.

    “Life is an interesting game, and you just always deal with whatever you’re dealt with that day or that week or that month or that year,” said Romney, who has a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/18/multiple-sclerosis-celebrities_n_1606174.html”also been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis/a. “No matter what you’re living through, we all push forward.”

  • Edie Falco

    The TV star was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2003, when she was starring in “The Sopranos.”

    “I take very good care of myself (mostly because I didn’t many years ago), and that served me well during chemo,” a href=”http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20411264,00.html”she later wrote in an article for emHealth/em magazine/a. “Running every day made me feel calm and strong, even as my self-image suffered from my hair falling out.”

    After her cancer went into remission, Falco decided to adopt — her baby boy, Anderson, was born in January 2005. She later a href=”http://www.redbookmag.com/fun-contests/celebrity/edie-falco-nurse-jackie”adopted a daughter/a, as well.

    “Obviously, it wasn’t meant for me to die of cancer at 40,” a href=”http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20411264_2,00.html”she wrote/a in emHealth/em. “Every day my life surprises me, just like my cancer diagnosis surprised me.”

  • Suzanne Somers

    The “Three’s Company” and “Step By Step” actress was first diagnosed with breast cancer in 2000. “We were silent, hardly talking, in disbelief, like this can’t be happening, wondering is this a little blip or the end of my life?” a href=”http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20134247,00.html”she told emPeople/em magazine in 2001/a, of hearing the news for the first time with her husband Alan Hamel.

    Just earlier this year — more than a decade since her diagnosis — Somers shared with emPeople/em that she a href=”http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20567432,00.html”underwent an experimental breast reconstruction surgery/a, to repair the damage from a lumpectomy and radiation treatments.

  • Olivia Newton-John

    The “Grease” star and singer was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1992 after feeling a lump in a self exam — a href=”http://ww5.komen.org/BreastCancer/OliviaNewtonJohn.html”her treatment included/a surgery, chemotherapy, a radical mastectomy and reconstruction.

    “When you’re first diagnosed, people are pulling you in every direction: Do this! Do that! You really have to gather yourself, because you’re the one who has to make the hard choices,” a href=”http://ww5.komen.org/BreastCancer/OliviaNewtonJohn.html”she said in a QA on Susan G. Komen For The Cure’s website/a. “I researched a lot and felt satisfied with my course of treatment. It was sort of an East-meets-West approach.”

    And that meant taking care of her emwhole/em body, not just the cancer.

    “I did everything I could to take care of myself — body, mind, and spirit,” a href=”http://www.everydayhealth.com/breast-cancer/mylife/olivia-newton-john/questions.aspx”she told EverydayHealth.com/a. “I look at my cancer journey as a gift: It made me slow down and realize the important things in life and taught me to not sweat the small stuff.”

  • Giuliana Rancic

    The 36-year-old “E! News” host announced last October ona href=”http://theclicker.today.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/10/17/8363134-es-giuliana-rancic-reveals-she-has-breast-cancer” target=”_hplink” NBC’s Today show/a that she has breast cancer, and that she was alerted to the cancer via a mammogram during her third in vitro fertilization attempt.

    “Through my attempt to get pregnant for the third time, we sadly found out that I have early stages of breast cancer,” she said a href=”http://theclicker.today.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/10/17/8363134-es-giuliana-rancic-reveals-she-has-breast-cancer” target=”_hplink”on the Today show/a. “It’s been a shock. A lot of people have been asking, we saw that you went and got IVF, are you pregnant? But sadly, we’ve had to put that off.”

    Rancic underwent a double lumpectomy and removal of several of her lymph nodes, but she later went on the TODAY show last December to say that the cancer was not completely cleared by those treatments and that she will a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/12/05/double-mastectomy-giuliana-rancic-breast-cancer_n_1129433.html” target=”_hplink”undergo a double mastectomy/a.

    This year, Rancic finally got her happy ending, a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/12/edward-duke-rancic-photo-giuliana-bill-rancic-baby-boy_n_1876694.html”with the birth of son Edward Duke/a via gestational surrogate on August 29.

  • Wanda Sykes

    In a 2011 interview with Ellen DeGeneres, Wanda Sykes revealed that she had been a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/23/wanda-sykes-breast-cancer_n_977761.html#s312402title=Wanda_Sykes” target=”_hplink”diagnosed with breast cancer/a and underwent a double mastectomy.

    “I had breast cancer. Yeah, I know it’s scary,” Sykes said in the interview. “This was in February. I went for the reduction. I had real big boobs and I just got tired of knocking over stuff. Every time I eat … Oh lord. I’d carry a Tide stick everywhere I go. My back was sore so it was time to have a reduction.”

    After the reduction, the pathology report found ductal carcinoma in situ in her left breast, which prompted Skykes, who has a a href=”http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20531010,00.html” target=”_hplink”family history of breast cancer/a, to opt for a double mastectomy.

    And while the diagnosis is scary, she hasn’t lost her a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/23/wanda-sykes-breast-cancer_n_977761.html#s312402title=Wanda_Sykes” target=”_hplink”signature humor/a.

    “I was like, ‘I don’t know, should I talk about it or what?’ How many things could I have? I’m black, then lesbian. I can’t be the poster child for everything … At least with the LGBT issues we get a parade, we get a float, it’s a party. [But] I was real hesitant about doing this, because I hate walking. I got a lot of [cancer] walks coming up.”

  • Christina Applegate

    In 2008, actress Christina Applegate shared in a “Good Morning America” interview that she had been a href=”http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=5606034page=1? target=”_hplink”diagnosed with breast cancer/a at the age of 36 — she opted for a bilateral mastectomy instead of radiation or chemotherapy.

    “I didn’t want to go back to the doctors every four months for testing and squishing and everything. I just wanted to kind of get rid of this whole thing for me. This was the choice that I made and it was a tough one,” she said a href=”http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/story?id=5606034page=1? target=”_hplink”in the interview/a. “Sometimes, you know, I cry. And sometimes I scream. And I get really angry. And I get really upset, you know, into wallowing in self-pity sometimes. And I think that it’s all part of the healing.”

    Perhaps the best healing of all came in 2011 when Applegate gave birth to baby Sadie with musician Martyn LeNoble.

    “She’s healed me in so many ways. She’s just made my life so much better. I’ve been kind of sad for a long time, and she’s just opened my whole soul,” Applegate a href=”http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20467525,00.html” target=”_hplink”told emPeople/em/a in an exclusive interview in 2011.

  • Melissa Etheridge

    In 2005, rock-and-roll artist Etheridge underwent a lumpectomy and five rounds of chemotherapy and radiation to eradicate her breast cancer.

    “I had been running along in my life at a fast pace. When I heard it was cancer, I just stood still,” Etheridge told emShape/em magazine in a 2009 interview. “My life passed over me like a big wave, and after, I was left there standing. This turned out to be a very good thing. I stopped. I looked at my life, I looked at my body and spirit.”

    In the midst of her treatment, Etheridge found out she was a href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6994469/ns/dateline_nbc/t/melissa-etheridges-brave-comeback/” target=”_hplink”nominated for a Grammy/a for her song “Breathe” — and while she wasn’t sure she’d make an appearance at first, Etheridge ultimately decided not only to attend, but to perform in a Janis Joplin tribute. Taking to the stage bald and with no eyebrows — a side-effect of the chemo — she belted out Joplin’s classic, “Piece Of My Heart.”

    “It was very special that I had been presented with a day, that I could come back into this entertainment world, and show everyone that you are back and okay, and thought, okay,” Etheridge told a href=”http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6994469/ns/dateline_nbc/t/melissa-etheridges-brave-comeback/” target=”_hplink”MSNBC at the time/a. “I’m going to do this. And I’m not gonna be afraid of the truth. The truth is, yes I had cancer. Yes, I got it out of me. Yes, I went through chemotherapy. Yes, I’m bald.”

    Check out Etheridge’s breast cancer causes on her a href=”http://www.melissaetheridge.com/pinkpage” target=”_hplink”Pink Rage website/a.

  • Robin Roberts

    ABC’s “Good Morning America” co-host Robin Roberts was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2007.

    “I never thought I’d be writing this. … a href=”http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/CancerPreventionAndTreatment/abcs-robin-roberts-breast-cancer/story?id=3430554? target=”_hplink”I have breast cancer/a,” she said in a message released by ABC in August 2007. While working on a tribute to her colleague Joel Siegel, who had died from cancer, Robins reported on how key early detection is — and, taking her own advice, she did a self breast exam and found a lump. “Much as I was hoping the doctor would say it was nothing, she did a biopsy and confirmed that the lump I’d found was indeed an early form of breast cancer,” Robins a href=”http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/CancerPreventionAndTreatment/abcs-robin-roberts-breast-cancer/story?id=3430554? target=”_hplink”continued in her statement/a.

    Robins underwent a partial mastectomy, chemotherapy and radiation.

    In 2008, she told emPeople/em magazine that she a href=”http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20238177,00.html” target=”_hplink”complemented her regular doctor’s visits/a with acupuncture, exercise and advice from a nutritionist. “Yes, I am living with cancer,” she a href=”http://www.people.com/people/archive/article/0,,20238177,00.html” target=”_hplink”told emPeople/em/a. “But don’t go ‘woe is me.’ I don’t want it. Don’t need it. I’m still in the game. I don’t want to say ‘survivor.’ I want to thrive.”

    Earlier this year, Roberts announced that she was diagnosed with a a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/20/bone-marrow-transplant-robin-roberts-myelodysplastic-syndrome_n_1900324.html”rare blood disorder called myelodysplastic syndrome/a.

  • Kylie Minogue

    Australian singer Minogue was first diagnosed with breast cancer in May 2005 and underwent surgery and chemotherapy treatment.

    “When you are stripped of everything and you have to grow your eyelashes back, grow your hair back, it’s just astonishing,” Minogue told British emGlamour/em magazine. “It’s hard to express what I’ve learned from that, but a deep psychological and emotional shift has obviously taken place.”

    This open and honest approach to her diagnosis led Minogue to be voted the a href=”http://www.reuters.com/article/2010/09/03/us-cancer-celebrities-idUSTRE6820P120100903? target=”_hplink”most inspirational breast cancer celebrity/a in an online British-based poll, Reuters reports.

  • Sheryl Crow

    Singer Sheryl Crow was a href=”http://articles.cnn.com/2006-10-06/health/crow.cancer_1_breast-cancer-early-detection-cancer-patients?_s=PM:HEALTH” target=”_hplink”diagnosed with breast cancer/a in 2006 and, thanks to early detection, underwent a minimally invasive surgery and seven weeks of radiation therapy.

    Crow told emHealth/em magazine that a href=”http://www.health.com/health/article/0,,20411904_2,00.html” target=”_hplink”she saw a nutritionist/a when she was first diagnosed and began a diet full of fish, walnuts, colorful vegetables, fiber and healthy spices.

    “I kept my breast cancer tattoos — where the radiation was lined up on my chest,” Crow told emHealth/em. “Once in a while I look at it to remind myself that I have to put on my oxygen mask first before I put it on anybody else.”

    Today, Crow is focused on spreading the message of early detection. In 2010, she a href=”http://content.usatoday.com/communities/entertainment/post/2010/08/sheryl-crow-opsns-breast-cancer-imaging-center-/1? target=”_hplink”founded the Sheryl Crow Center/a as part of the Pink Lotus Breast Center, which was founded by her own surgeon, ABC News reports.

    This past June, Crow also revealed that she was diagnosed late last year with a a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/06/05/benign-brain-tumor-sheryl-crow_n_1572008.html”benign brain tumor/a.

  • Cynthia Nixon

    In 2008, the “Sex and the City” star went public with her a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2008/04/15/cynthia-nixon-on-her-love_n_96749.html” target=”_hplink”cancer diagnosis/a, revealing that she found a lump in its early stages and had it removed through radiation, The Huffington Post reported at the time.

    Nixon wrote in a 2008 emNewsweek/em article that her mother was a href=”http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2008/10/03/a-family-of-strong-women.html” target=”_hplink”diagnosed with breast cancer twice/a — the first time, Nixon was just 13.

    “I feel like I have a very a href=”http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/03/slideshow_n_991609.html#s384104title=Cynthia_Nixon” target=”_hplink”concrete story to tell/a. My story isn’t just my story, it’s mine and my mother’s story,” the a href=”http://ww5.komen.org/” target=”_hplink”Susan G. Komen for the Cure/a spokesperson has said.