It's Okay To Sleep Apart

Callers are often afraid to sleep apart, afraid that it will undermine the marriage and afraid of what others will think (including their children) if the others learn they are sleeping apart. Also some callers think that if you are a couple you are supposed to share a bed. Their friends do it. Their parents did it. Their sisters and brothers do it. The characters in TV dramas and sitcoms do it. Then too, some people continue to share a bed because they feel safer sharing a bed. Some share a bed because they like the physical intimacy, because they like the chance to talk to each other, and because it just feels right. But still they are getting terrible sleep and it’s wrecking their daily life. They have trouble getting up in the morning. Their lack of sleep affects their thinking, their work life, their memory, their driving, their parenting, their mood, and everything else. They want desperately to get a better night’s sleep. And they think things would be much better if they slept apart from their partners. But they are also afraid of what sleeping apart might cost them. So they keep on sharing a bed, hoping that tonight will be much better. But usually it is not.